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What you fail to mention, this emancipated-way-of-doing-things is only possible in a small segment the US population. Other people in US society, especially with kids, have to work both to pay rent, utilities, food, clothes. They have no choice who stays home.

And if a choice is made for the wife to lean in more, it is usually because there is a child with disabilities, a sibling needing care, elderly parents needing help, etc. (A lot of work is done unpaid in this area, mostly by women.) Because of many gaps - education, remuneration - the wives usually earn less, making it an "easy" choice.

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This is true, but his sampling was people that did it (successfully or not). Tim was also specifically answering claims by researchers who seem to be making reference to stale data.

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This will happen not often among ordinary Americans - they cannot afford it. It would be great if it was possible, spouses could decide who does what best, and act upon it. I always thought that feminism could/should benefit both sexes and the kids. The US is currently going backward - that worries me. A few well-to-do stay-at-home fathers do not change that. Still, an interesting read. Although, being from Europe, nothing new here !

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Yes, I'd be interested to know how many married couples can afford to have one parent at home by choice at all.

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